Helping couples restore trust and connection in their relationship
Marriage Counseling
— Online across Texas, Virginia and Colorado —
Do you wonder when things changed in your relationship?
Have you stopped talking the way you used to?
Do you feel like miscommunication has become the norm?
Do you wish you could talk more easily about everything without it turning into a fight?
Do you wish you could express yourself more easily, but are afraid it will be misunderstood?
It can be incredibly frustrating and lonely when the person you love the most seems like a stranger. I understand how it feels to yearn for a strong and loving relationship, and the pain of watching it slip away. Navigating the complexities of a troubled relationship can feel isolating and overwhelming. This is even more so the case when there is infidelity and you are dealing with betrayal, anger and pain while trying to figure out if you can hold on to the relationship. I can provide the compassionate support and guidance you need.
You feel disconnected from your partner constantly dealing with misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts. You’re longing for the intimacy and connection that was once there, but also are afraid you won’t be able to bridge the gap that has formed between you. Is it even possible? This is extremely difficult to be going through in your relationship and even more so since you feel so alone with the person you are supposed to be closest to. You feel like you’re watching your relationship slip away.
Most couples have hard times.
It is very normal for a couple to have problems come up in their relationship. This is universal. Every relationship goes through difficult times. External factors like work, extended family needs, changes within your own family like kids, changes in employment, health issues—all of these things can cause a change in your relationship. It isn’t uncommon for these changes to cause changes in communication, stress can lead to more arguments and it goes on….
When these issues go on for a period of time, it begins to turn into the norm. Our expectations for the relationship change, communication continues to get worse as you isolate more, fight more and distance grows.
It doesn’t have to be this hard.
It is possible to reclaim that happiness and connection in your relationship. You can why you can’t seem to break the pattern holding your relationship hostage and learn tangible skills that will not only help you in your day to day life today, but will help you move forward into a better future.
How can couples counseling help?
have a relationship that is more meaningful and connected: couples therapy can to enhance the quality of your relationship by fostering a deeper emotional bond and more fulfillment, resulting in a more meaningful and connected partnership.
restore trust that has been lost: therapy provides a safe place to work on restoring trust that has been damaged or lost, address underlying issues and rebuild a foundation of trust and confidence in your partner.
learn to prioritize your relationship: I can help provide guidance on how to cherish and prioritize your relationship, helping you nurture the connection in your relationship and feel a sense of value and appreciation.
practice effective communication skills: communication skills learned in therapy give you the tools to express your needs, wants, and emotions more effectively allowing for better understanding and that both partners' needs are able to be met.
stop feeling ‘meh’ and start feeling good: I want you to have a relationship you are excited about again! Therapy can help you get rid of heaviness and negativity you may be experiencing, and providing tools and strategies to create a healthier and more positive relationship.
What is it like to work with me?
I work with couples who want to show up and work on their relationship—even if you can’t picture what that looks like right now. I will provide you real guidance and direction because I want you to see change quickly.
In our first session we’ll do a deep dive into what the problems are and get into the details of where things go wrong. We’ll figure out what has been going on that has brought you in, what pattern or loop you haven’t been able to get out of.
We will figure out how things came to be. I want you to really understand how you got to this place so you don’t slip back into old patterns. You want to move forward into something new and stop repeating the same pattern—I can help.
Having a good relationship requires you to be skillful. I will help you learn tangible skills that can be used right away, and in the future.
I can help you better understand your goals and how to move forward. You can learn how to do this differently and better.
There are different ways to offer therapy. I offer traditional weekly/biweekly sessions with couples and I also offer couples intensive therapy sessions. Learn more about couples intensives here.
Working with me you will learn:
skills that can help you diffuse arguments before they start
if they do start, you can end them faster and have fights that are less intense.
what the destructive pattern between you is and where it came from,
how to get rid of that old pattern and replace it with something else that actually helps you navigate hard times more easily and effectively instead of you old standby—which is not working.
better communication skills that is effective and helps you get your needs met
Working with infidelity
Infidelity is a very specific issue in couples counseling. To learn more about this service with me, click here.
But maybe you’re still not sure about couples therapy…
I’ve heard it can help, but isn’t couples therapy expensive?
Couples therapy is an investment in yourself, your partner and your future relationship. When you nurture this relationship and get the help you need, it saves you more than it costs. It helps you create a healthier, less stressful home environment for everyone. Also, investing in your future relationship can help save relationships with other people in addition to your partner, not to mention to financial and emotional costs of a separation and possible divorce.
We’ve had these problems for so long, what if it’s too late for couples counseling?
Unfortunately, most couples wait a very long time—too long—before they reach out for help. They often think they can figure it out themselves, or by reading articles or blog posts on the internet, or by talking to friends who have had their own experiences. The truth is, those things can all be helpful as something supplemental, but they are not a replacement for getting help from someone who is specifically trained to work with couples. A couples therapist can work with you and focus on issues that are very specific to your relationship. And yes, even if you have had problems in your relationship for a long time, if you are willing to show up, you can definitely get help and it is not too late.
Why work with me?
Unlike many therapists, in addition to normal training I have had, I have extensive training specifically working with couples in both Gottman and Relational Life Therapy (RLT), which is the foundation of my work. Learn more about RLT here.
Working with couples is something I am passionate about, it is not just an add-on service that I offer. I am familiar with the unique dynamics and issues that couples face. Working together, I can help you make changes in your relationship that will help you have a closer relationship that you can maintain for years to come.
This is serious. It’s your life and your relationship with your person. The one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. How do you want to spend it? Stuck feeling like strangers to each other with an invisible barrier between you? Or moving forward into a new phase of your relationship where you have more connection and intimacy, better communication and fewer arguments that are less intense?
Although this is serious work, our time together will be relaxed, open and comfortable so you can truly show up and we can do real work together.
The average couple waits six years to get the help they need.
Imagine where you could be in six years if you start getting help now.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Does marriage counseling work?
A: Yes! Marriage and couples counseling absolutely can help you get great results for your relationship. I won’t lie, it’s work. Is it worth it? Absolutely! I’ve worked with couples that have had incredible results, even when dealing with infidelity.
Q: Is marriage counseling only for couples dealing with infidelity?
A: Couples come to see me for all types of reasons. Some come for help with infidelity recovery, but definitely not everyone. I can help with communication, feeling disconnected or being stuck in the ‘roommates rut’. If you are experiencing challenges in your relationship and don’t know how to get to a different place, I can help.
Q: Do we have to be together to have sessions?
A: No. I use a video platform that allows for people to be in different locations as long as you are each in one of the states I work in: Texas, Colorado and Virginia.
Q: I’m dragging my partner in. Is is still worth it?
A: Yup. Your partner is showing up for a reason. That motivation, whatever it is, is enough to get started and get results.
Q: Do you take insurance?
A: I do not. All sessions are private pay. All sessions are $140 and 50 minute sessions.